I’m linking up again with the lovely Spoons for Thinking Out Loud; however, this is a bit different from previous weeks. Instead of dumping a whole bunch of random thoughts on the blog – I’m being topical today – and it’s a bit of a heavy topic, so please bear with me if it’s turned ranty and makes little sense….
When you hear “mind the gap” do you think of this:
Do you have any idea how difficult it is to find a “thigh gap” picture that isn’t totally porn-like?!
If I were to bet, I’d say the majority of people would actually be in the second camp, especially with the popularity of sites like The Chive and their frequent “mind the gap” posts.
Now, before I start getting ranty (and I probably will) I do have to say I quite enjoy the Cat Saturday and Best of Tapiture posts on The Chive, even the Daily Awesomeness/Randomness posts are enjoyable at times, so I’m not a Chive hater, m’kay?
My problem with the “mind the gap” type posts is the implication that you must have a thigh gap in order to be attractive. Comments made by Chip Wilson, and the American Apparel dude (I’m far to lazy to Google his name and honestly, IDGAF what is it) only help to exacerbate the issue.
While I recognize the majority of the photos submitted to The Chive are user submitted, I still feel having an entire category dedicated to thigh gap is only perpetuating the ideal that in order to be attractive and worthy women must have a thigh gap and, well, that makes me a bit ragey.
It turns out when you Google “women thigh gap physiology” you get a lot of ranty posts about it – this made me smile. Here’s a sampling of a few of the articles:
- No, the Thigh Gap’s Not Really Possible, Here’s Why
- Things to Obsess About Instead of Thigh Gap
- Mind The Thigh Gap: Is This Yet Another Thing for Women To Worry About? (excerpt below)
The problem with thigh gaps isn’t that some people have them, it’s the fact that they’re being fetishised as some sort of physical ideal (as opposed to just one of many body types).
I could probably link for days to all the posts speaking out against this thigh gap ideology, but the truth is, linking to posts isn’t going to change that there are websites and sections of websites entirely dedicated to glorify the thigh gap.
I don’t have much profound to say on this topic other than we need to stop feeling less than and believing we are less than. We are not. We are good and beautiful and worthy just as we are. We don’t need a thigh gap, or to fit into a certain size, or to have our hip bones sticking out (gross) in order to justify our self-worth.
The most beautiful people I know are the ones whose beauty radiates from the outside. I’m sure you’ve met that kind of person, the one where you notice something different about them, but you really aren’t certain what is it. That, my friends, is confidence.
Being confident makes you a rock star! Forget about these stupid messages, we are good enough. I mean, if these people are stupid enough to Photoshop Jennifer Lawrence, they have no idea what beauty even is.
I remember when I swam, I’d walk in such a way so my thighs didn’t touch when I walked down the pool deck. I was a teenager training 15-20 hours a week – let me tell you – I was in shape there was nothing to indicate a non-thigh gap meant I wasn’t fit or healthy, and yet, even then, I felt I needed a thigh gap to be considered attractive (thus leading into disordered eating). I even remember a time after going through one of my disordered eating bouts when my thighs didn’t touch and I felt worthy.
Seriously. How sad is that?! I received self-worth from my thighs. Awful.
Now, as a runner, if my thighs touch it’s because they’re muscled. Muscled enough to push my body to run marathons and do squats and lunges (I actually wrote lunches here – it’s obvious I’m highly focused on food!) and keep me healthy.